
The Secret Sisters Circle is a private, faith-centered space for Christian wives of alcoholics — with clear on-demand guidance, real community, and tools you can reach for the second things get hard.
Try it free for 7 days. Cancel anytime.
Billed discreetly as 'Women's Ministries.'
Is your life spiraling due to your husband's drinking?
Have you let everything else in your life fall by the wayside because of it....including yourself?
If you’re here, there’s a good chance you’ve already tried to “do the right things.”
You’ve prayed more. You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts.
And somehow you still feel exhausted, emotionally raw, and unsure where to even begin.
The Secret Sisters Circle is for women just like you — where your heart, your tears, and your quiet struggles are finally noticed and supported.
Take my hand. You're going to get through this....
You’ve done everything you know to do.
You’ve prayed, cried, begged, and tried to hold it all together.
No one really knows what you’re carrying. And the loneliness? It’s crushing.
Each night you lie in bed, staring at the ceiling, wondering:
What do I do now? Why hasn’t God stepped in? Is He even listening?
If this is your story, sister—you are not alone.
You’ve been strong for so long, and it’s taken a toll.
Here, strength doesn’t mean you have to do it all alone — it means knowing you have a place to rest, reset, and regain your footing.
This is where you go when....
🔹He says he’s going to stop… and then doesn’t
🔹You don’t know if you should say something or stay quiet
🔹You’re lying in bed replaying everything that just happened
🔹Your chest feels tight and your thoughts won’t slow down
🔹When something just happened and you’re thinking: “What do I do right now?”
You will finally have some clear direction and support in every one of those moments.
You don’t have to figure it out alone.
What if, instead of barely hanging on… you could finally breathe again?
✨ You wake up and your body doesn’t feel clenched before the day even starts. The knot in your stomach has softened, and you’re not immediately bracing for what might happen. Something still happens — maybe he drinks, maybe tension rises — but instead of spiraling, you’re able to steady yourself before reacting.
✨ You don’t feel that same rush of panic in your chest. You’re not replaying every conversation for hours, wondering if you handled it wrong. You begin to trust your responses. You know when to speak and when to stay quiet — not out of fear, but from a place of clarity.
✨ You start setting boundaries that actually protect your peace, without the constant guilt and second-guessing. And instead of carrying everything alone in your head, you have somewhere to go — a place that helps you process what’s happening in real time, so it doesn’t keep building inside of you.
✨ Even your faith begins to feel different… less like something you’re trying to hold onto, and more like something that’s holding you.
✨ Your circumstances may not have fully changed yet — but you have. You feel steadier, clearer, more grounded in who you are and how you to show up....for yourself *and* those around you.
And for the first time in a long time, you can feel it: You’re going to be okay.
Not all at once. Not perfectly. But you're getting there.... through one small, supported step at a time.
"I wish I had joined sooner.
I was hesitant because I wasn't sure online support would be enough. However, the videos and daily chats are amazing.
I also appreciate that when I am struggling in a certain moment or situation, I have access to content right away, and I feel less alone."
"Having a place to go and just feel seen and not alone was so important. Also learning to disconnect from my husband’s addiction was huge for me after 25 years of codependency.
I think my boundaries were what finally pushed my husband to seek help. He is now in counseling and on medication for his depression and has not had a drink in a few weeks."
"This program taught me so much about myself, my husband, and our marriage. Everything here allowed me to create boundaries and communicate my struggles with him. This led to rock bottom in our marriage, which has now turned into healing. We are on the mend! You're doing a wonderful thing!"
For less than the cost of a single counseling session, you have access to guidance that's there at 2am when your thoughts won't stop, on the drive to work when you're holding back tears, and in the moment right after something happens and you don't know what to do.
Membership is $34/month — cancel anytime, no minimum commitment. Billed discreetly as 'Women's Ministries' so your privacy is protected. Your first 7 days are completely free.
Most women in your situation have already spent far more than $34 trying to find answers — books that didn't quite fit, counselors who meant well but didn't really get it, hours of searching for something that spoke to your specific reality as a Christian wife. This does. And it's here whenever you need it.
Most support options expect you to take action right away — to think clearly, make good decisions, and respond calmly.
But when you’re living in this kind of stress, your body doesn’t work that way.
You can’t just “do better” when you feel overwhelmed. You can’t absorb information when your mind is spinning. You can’t respond with clarity when your system is on edge.
That’s not a failure on your part. It’s how you’re wired after months or even years of constant stress from being the wife of an alcoholic.
That’s why the Secret Sisters Circle is structured differently.
Instead of pushing you to figure everything out, it helps you steady yourself first — so your body can come out of that constant state of tension.
From there, you begin to feel more grounded in the moment, so you’re not immediately reacting when things happen. And from that place, you’re able to choose what you actually need, instead of trying to do everything at once.
This is why so many women say, “For the first time… this actually feels doable.”
✨ This isn’t something you have to figure out all at once.
It’s something you come back to — in real time, when hard moments hit.
The Secret Sisters Circle is not a 12-step program.
You won’t be handed a set of steps to follow, but you also won’t be left wondering what to do.
This is a guided, faith-centered space designed specifically for the realities you’re living in as the wife of an alcoholic.
Instead of general principles or abstract advice, you’re given clear, practical direction for the moments you’re actually facing as a wife, such as...
🔹what to do when he lies or breaks trust
🔹how to respond when emotions are high and conversations start to escalate
🔹how to set boundaries that protect your peace without constant guilt
🔹how to navigate your physical relationship
🔹how to steady yourself when your thoughts begin to spiral
And we don’t just focus on your actions — we also support your body and your faith, because lasting change doesn’t happen through willpower alone.
As you move through the Secret Sisters Circle content you’ll begin to notice real shifts:
🔹Your mind becomes clearer instead of constantly overwhelmed.
🔹Your responses feel more grounded instead of reactive.
🔹You start to trust yourself again.
🔹And your relationship with God becomes something you can lean on in the middle of it — not something you feel like you’re falling short in.
This isn’t about checking boxes or doing everything 'right'.
It’s about having steady, faith-led guidance you can return to again and again — as real life unfolds.
(*See the FAQs below for other ways that the SSC differs from programs like Alanon)

Guidance When You Need It Most—Available 24/7
Every SSC lesson is designed to meet you where you are — whether your heart is raw, your body is tense, or your mind is spinning. You take only what you need, at your own pace — because progress here isn’t about speed, it’s about care.
Many women begin to feel a shift after just their first few lessons—not just mentally, but physically, as their bodies start to remember what safety feels like—because these aren’t just teachings… they’re truth-filled lifelines for the exact kind of pain you're walking through right now.
When your thoughts feel tangled, you can enter a lesson that meets you right where you are....
🔹When he lies and you don’t know how to respond
🔹When you feel yourself getting triggered and don’t know how to calm down
🔹When you’re about to say something you might regret
You can go to the SSC portal and be guided through it right then.
The lesson library lives on a private, members-only platform, where you can access everything on your own time, as your heart is ready.
No deadlines. No pressure. Just steady, soul-soothing help available whenever you need it.
Because when your world feels upside down, you don’t need one more thing to keep up with—
You need hope that’s ready when you are.

When you log in, you won’t be wondering where to start.
If your spirit needs rest, you go to the Quiet Room and find an audio to quiet your mind and soothe your heart.
If your thoughts are spiraling, you go to the Grounding Room and follow one simple prompt.
If something just happened and you don’t know how to respond, you open a lesson that walks you through it step-by-step.
If you feel overwhelmed, you don’t just push through — you have tools like the SSC Roadmaps to help you. Find the one that resonates, and take one small next step.
You are never left figuring it out alone.
Because when your heart is heavy and your mind is spinning, sometimes the most powerful thing is simply knowing what to do next.

When understanding feels abstract, these prompts help you slow down and apply truth gently.
It’s one thing to hear truth that stirs your heart…
It’s another to know how to actually live it out in the middle of your personal, painful reality.
That’s where the Secret Sisters Circle worksheets, exercises, and reflection prompts come in.
Each one is created to help you take what you’re learning and gently apply it to your life—your marriage, your emotions, your day-to-day challenges with addiction in your home.
These aren’t homework assignments — they’re gentle guides to help you process what’s already in your heart. One question at a time, one short reflection, whenever you feel ready.
Whether you print them or fill them out digitally, they’re here to help you not just learn—but transform.

One of the most cherished features inside of the Secret Sisters Circle is the Toolbox—a powerful collection of practical, faith-centered tools designed to help you rise above the chaos.
These aren't just strategies—they’re lifelines.
Instead of freezing
Instead of spiraling
Instead of reacting in ways you later regret
You’ll have a go-to resource to reach for in the moment.

Life doesn’t slow down just because your heart is heavy.
That’s exactly why we created the Secret Sisters Circle private audio feed—so you can receive encouragement, truth, and practical guidance right in the middle of your real life.
Whether you're walking the dog with tears in your eyes, driving to work with a prayer on your lips, or getting ready for another day of trying to hold it all together—you can bring the hope and strength of the SSC lessons with you.
This private, podcast-style feed gives you easy access to every teaching, so you can listen anytime, anywhere.
Because sometimes, hearing the right words at the right moment can change everything.

When you feel unseen and unknown, the private circle reminds you: you are truly known and not alone.
That's why one of the greatest gifts inside the Secret Sisters Circle is the private community—a sacred space where you can exhale, be seen, and be gently reminded that you are not the only one living this hard story.
This isn’t just a group. It’s a circle of faith-filled women who truly get it—who know what it’s like to carry the weight of a loved one’s addiction, and who are committed to walking in healing, hope, and God’s strength together.
You don’t have to post to belong. You don’t have to be ‘ready’ to connect. Simply being here — reading, listening, pausing — means you are part of a circle that sees you, hears you, and cares.
Housed on a private, members-only platform, this group is a safe refuge—just for Secret Sisters like you.
A place to be lifted up when you're weary… and to lift others when your heart is feeling strong.
Because healing happens in community. And you were never meant to carry this burden alone.
(PS: Group participation is optional. You do not have to join the support group to have access to everything else)
Living with addiction doesn’t just overwhelm your thoughts — it puts your whole body on high alert.
You’ve been bracing for a long time.
Trying to hold it together.
Trying to figure out what to do next while you’re already exhausted.
The Secret Sisters Circle doesn’t assume you’re ready to jump in and do a bunch of things.
Instead it begins by helping you slow down, rest, and reset first — so your nervous system can soften and your heart can finally exhale.
From there, the lessons gently guide you through what matters most:
- understanding what you’re living in
- navigating your relationship & reality
- deepening your spiritual life
- caring for yourself
Everything here is created specifically for wives of alcoholics — faith-rooted, compassionate, and designed to be taken slowly.
You don’t have to keep up with anything here. You don’t have to do it all. You just need a place to go when things feel hard.
This isn’t about doing more.
It’s about being supported in the place you already are.
⭐ This is not just something you learn. It’s something you use — in the middle of real conversations, real emotions, and real days.
"I had a great experience in the SSC.
I have a much greater understanding of how to support my husband as he works through his addiction. I have learned to give up my desire to control the circumstances that are beyond my control and have gained so much peace.
What sets this group apart is the focus on God and on building our relationship with Jesus. As a Christian wife, this was a crucial piece for me that I could not find anywhere else. The support from other women who are walking the same path is so encouraging. God is using the SSC in powerful ways!"
”I was very caught up in my husband's addiction and didn't realize how much I was letting it completely run our lives. SSC helped me learn what boundaries are, how to put them in place and stand by them. It helped me detach more from the addiction, so I could actually be more myself and help my kids through our rough spots. It was a huge eye opener for me all the way around and was a huge blessing.
SSC is something I have told multiple friends about who are in similar situations to my because the community and trainings are so amazing. This dropped into my life just as I was giving up hope in everything and was about to leave my fiance because of addiction; now we are on a much better path in our faith and together, but as individuals. Thank you so much!”
“The compassion and understanding I have been able to find of my husbands addiction has brought so much peace to my home.
I’ve seen a huge difference in him and our kids.
Not to mention, I have found a way to navigate through this messy life without feeling like I’m walking on egg shells.”
"This was an incredible support needed more than I would have ever expected. Showing myself that I wasn't alone in my struggle, how to allow space for myself and for my own healing and providing boundaries were all absolutely necessary and nothing I would have been able to find on my own. I also thoroughly enjoyed the online access and presents provided. It allowed me to focus in the privacy and comfort of my own home/surroundings where/when I needed it most. I will never be 100% certain what or why my husband finally decided to take sobriety into his own hands, nor will I search for that answer but I will forever have peace knowing he has found it. Thank you for all you have done to create such an incredible space in such an ugly phase of life."
"This information has been by far the most helpful in teaching me self care and how to manage my husband’s addiction! I have utilized other outside resources and none are equivalent to this material. I/we are in a spot that requires time and healing. My intention is to put this membership on hold, hoping to never use it again, but keeping it close. Thank you for doing God’s work!"
“My husband has been sober for 2 months now and things are much better in our lives. This group was such a Godsend when I truly needed it. The lessons were very helpful and having the secret sister community was so comforting and helpful during some dark days of my life. This is a wonderful program. Thank you so much!”
"I just wanted to send you an email and say that your program is literally changing my life... when I first started I will admit that I didn't think it could help me. I didn't think anything could help me and I was in SUCH a dark place!
God is literally transforming my heart and mind through this program and the tools. Thank you!!!"
“I am new. I can't believe how much the tools are already helping me not only with my husband but with any stressful situation. I feel so comfortable here, there is no pressure and I am not being judged and that feels amazing. The tools and podcasts have made me realize that I am important and that I need to make myself a priority. I know that I found this group for a reason and I am so glad I did....Thank You”
“I just need to say how incredibly thankful I am for this group. From the teachings to the incredibly gracious people, this has been the only thing that has actually been a consistent, helpful thing.
I am amazed at how quickly people who haven’t been in the trenches of alcohol start giving “encouragement” that is nothing more than I am sorry or “praying for you” but they don’t want to continue to be there to stand with you IN it. It can be very lonely.
I appreciate that if I need a place to come and vent, to be encouraged, to have people actually pray, care and love, I know I can come here and there are sisters who will be there. Thankful and blessed by all of you.”
A: This is for any woman married to a man whose drinking is negatively affecting her marriage or her life*.
There’s no schedule, no checklist, no right way to participate. You belong here exactly as you are, whether you visit once a week or once a month, whether you read every lesson or just take one small step.
(*The only exception is women who are in an abusive relationship. If there is any type of abuse taking place in your marriage I encourage you to get to a safe environment first and foremost.)
A: The program is housed on an easy-to-use private online platform. You would simply log into the platform to go through the content, tools, activities, etc. It is very user-friendly and self-explanatory, and there is no completion deadline on anything.
The private group is also online.
A: As mentioned above, this is not a 12-step program.
12-step programs are not for everyone, and Alanon is not for everyone either (it wasn't really a good fit for me).
The Secret Sisters Circle is also perfect for those who need more detailed guidance and direction since it offers easily accessible resources on demand.
And last, but certainly not least, the Secret Sisters Circle is geared towards Christian women who acknowledge Jesus as Lord of their lives, as opposed to just a 'higher power'.
A: Membership is $34/month with no minimum commitment — cancel anytime, no questions asked.
Your first 7 days are free, so you can experience everything inside the SSC before you're charged a thing.
The charge will appear discreetly on your statement as 'Women's Ministries.' It is also suggested that you sign up with an email address that only you have access to since that is where the log-in credentials for the program will be sent.
A: Yes, this program is private. Once you log into the program that area is completely your own. The only exception is the answers to the quiz questions, which I alone can see. This enables me to offer feedback when needed. If you would rather not share your answers with me you can just write them in a journal instead and then enter any character in the answer box to continue.
The community is only visible to other members.
A: You can move through the SSC content at a pace that is comfortable for you. There is no deadline or schedule for anything.
You take only what you need, at your own pace.
A: There is not any minimum monthly commitment required, although it is recommended that you remain in the program long enough to get the benefit from it, of course.
That being said, you can cancel at any time.

If nothing changes, tomorrow looks a lot like today — the same exhaustion, the same replaying of conversations, the same wondering what you should have done differently.
You don't have to keep guessing. You don't have to keep white-knuckling it in silence.
Real help exists — and it's ready for you right now, exactly where you are.
I spent years trying to manage my husband's addiction on my own, and it cost me more than I want to admit.
I built the Secret Sisters Circle because I didn't want that for you.
I'd be honored to meet you inside.
In His Grace,
Julie
Please note the following:
-This program is not meant for those in an abusive relationship. If there is even the possibility of any sort of abuse in your situation you need to get to a safe place first and foremost.
-Every situation/person/marriage is different so there is no specific outcome or result guaranteed from this program.
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